This is your first step on your journey into femininity. It is a journey that will change your life. The decision to make this a 40 step program is a deliberate one. The entire 40 step program is designed to take 40 weeks, on average, to complete. That is the same amount of time as a human pregnancy.
How to start feminization? The best way to start a feminization process is with a single pair of panties. It is simple and easy. Panties allow you to feel feminine without showing any outward signs. Wearing panties for a week starts the process of progressive desensitization that will lead to the goal of a new feminine you.
There may very well be steps in the program that you have randomly done in the past. That does not mean you should skip over them here. A woman does not skip over weeks of her pregnancy even if she has had a baby before. For each week to be successful she relies on the growth achieved in the preceding weeks.
At times you will likely feel embarrassed. You may even be humiliated even though none of the steps have been designed with the goal to humiliate you. Most of all, you will be feminized. If you don’t intend to follow all of these tasks to the letter, then turn away now.
Your first assignment is to buy yourself a pair of panties. Be sure to measure your hips before you place your order. You may already have panties that have been gifted to you. Those panties don’t count. In order to complete this task successfully, you will need to purchase your own panties. Think of it as the first commitment to your feminine future.
To make life easier for you, we at Pink Femme have selected some options for the first pair of panties that you buy for yourself. Just follow this link to our recommended products page where you will see what we have chosen for you from the huge selection available at Amazon.
If you are a woman using feminization to teach a cheating husband or boyfriend a lesson, then your best option will be to take him to a specialist lingerie shop and make him pick out his first pair of panties from all the fabulous options in the shop. Make sure that he pays for his own panties. I am sure that he will be the only man in there, shopping for himself.
Don’t buy cheap underwear. This is an investment in your femininity, so buy quality that will last. Study all the available style and color choices of panties.
You are to choose a pair of white, brief-style panties. Be sure to find a pair with a lace front panel, preferably with some degree of control. That will make it easier to deal with your package. Make sure they are your size.
Don’t forget, you are a man and you need to make room for holding your male bits out of the way. So don’t buy panties with a narrow gusset unless you want to be squirming and fiddling all the time. Fiddling with your crotch is not ladylike at all so should be avoided.
When your Amazon package arrives, put your new panties away in your underwear drawer. Do not wear them… yet.
Tonight, when you undress and get ready for bed, throw away one pair of old, nasty, male undies. You have a new pretty pair of panties to take their place now.
Tomorrow, you will wear your new panties all day. If it’s a workday, try to imagine which of your female colleagues might have prettier panties than you.
Hand-wash your panties each evening and wear them every day for the rest of the week.
Do not proceed to the assignment that makes up your next step until you have worn panties for at least one whole week. If you skip a day you will need to restart your week from scratch. If you skip a second day you will need to restart the entire task by going to buy a new pair of panties in a specialist lingerie shop.
Additional Reading
I am sure that you already know that there is more to being girly than can be crammed into just 40 steps. This is especially so when we start adding beauty products, makeup, and fashion choices into the collection.
That is why it is vital for your growing girly education that you will be required to read at least one additional Pink Femme post each day.
Here are the article categories again:
While doing your additional reading each day, make a note of which articles you found the most useful and why.
Be sure to come back and comment below on how you managed with the first step of your 40 Steps to Femme program.
Once you have finished this step, click here to move on to the next step. You can also click here to go to the 40 Steps to Femme course list.
I’ll start today mistress
I bought a quality set of 6 pairs, wear them constantly, a week at work in them and the male dominanted career im in, the bits and pieces feel out of place. Sucks to have a masc job and try to be femme , without coming out to the world at work. The thrill of potentially having an admirer spot my panties and get friendly , I feel attractive when men try to flirt with me
yes know ,,, my work is also masculine. but I do wear painties very day and thongs love them has so helped me ,,,, some women have noticed thought ,,,,, I guess part of the process of coming out ,,,, im so into them actually started to wear bras now…. so fun… discreetly …
I love showing that I am wearing my thong panties,brings out my feminine side, being hit on by men is a thrill,I am a bi feminine male
Oh my, Miss Chandra, it is Vanity Fair for me! I adore the slippery sensation of that pretty, smooth nylon against my feminine loins. I wear them all of the time! Maybe someday I will find a male who wants a girl like me to date, and I will be ever so happy! Oh my!
Miss Roxanne Lanyon
“A New Gurl in Town”
Starting today Ma’am ..I have been wearing panties on and off for a few months .. I will try your plan .. wish me luck 💋
I will start Immediately.
i just found it today… so i started with your 40 weeks program, taking all the weeks as a newby… hope to finish it
I want to thank you. I have completed my first week and look forward to week two. Once again thank you for your advice and helping to make this journey less stressful. I love wearing panties!
I am not a Lady and I love wearing high quality Panties, if fact I stop wearing Men’s undies after I discovered Panties are much more comfortable and softer on my skin
Just wanted to make a quick comment on the onset of this 40 week program. Im looking forward to desensitizing my male ego in order to allow femininity to flourish from within.
This is a simple and powerful task. I no longer have any male underwear,only women’s panties. I got to the point if I missed a day of panties my entire day was ruined. It’s so liberating knowing you and your Mistress are the only ones that know.
I ordered a pair of panties. I look forward to this path of feminization.
I have been wearing panties for exclusively for 3+ years.
I started wearing panties, quite some time ago, I’ve graduated to wearing them even with visits to the doctor, although not the sexy ones. I love buying panties, as there is so much variety to chose from, thongs are not an option though. My wife is jealous, as my collection is much better than hers. I guess women just view panties as underwear, not an expression of who they are.
I do adore wearing panties every day. I always feel so sweet and girlie in them! Oh, I hope some day a dear man will take me away from all of this madness and make me his wife!
Roxanne
I am at the end of my first week wearing the all white hi-cut panties. Let me tell you it is so worth it. I was so nervous for the first couple of days but I was also extremely excited. Knowing I’m wearing such cute panties under my dress pants is such a thrill. Also a couple things I have learned, is that you have to go into a physical stall to use the restroom unless you want people to see your panties. Also cleaning one set of panties can be a chore so definitely get it done asap, so they can be ready for tomorrow! I hope you enjoy your week! XOXO
I received my panties last monday so I started the first step tuesday. How is lovely to feel the smooth of the pantie on my bottom. I already get new pants for the week 2
Hello Edith my name is Samantha and I’ve been buying girls clothes and wearing them for a long time I live as a girl just not in public I want to thank you for the 40 steps I have read over them as far as it would let me go for now but I am going to start at step one and follow the whole process but I have learned some ways to help me walk more like a girl I left feeling so feminine girly it’s just hard to live the way I feel I should have been born because I have always felt like a girl ever since a young age I am hoping to start female hormones and hopefully have my surgery shortly afterwards so I figured if I do these 40 steps it will help get me ready for when I am the girl that I was supposed to be thank you again and God bless mistress
Hi Edith,
Reading your posts for a long time!. As part of New Years Resolution, decided after 16 years to live the life that I always wanted. Taking small steps towards the goal.
I always sit while peeing.
I always sit in Queens Pose.
Received my first set of panties today. Bought a couple of briefs, hipsters and thongs(not the cheap ones though). All from your suggestions. I somehow resisted myself from wearing them. Cant wait to wear them!!
Thank you so much. This website means a lot to me.
Regards,
Harshita
Started the program last week. This was my first time actually purchasing women’s underwear (I usually wear pantyhose or tights when I dress up.) Actually throwing away a pair of my male underwear made it pretty real for me as far as the actual journey goes. I’ve never done that and for some reason was an actual mental shock to me. Washing the underwear each night was a bit of a task, but what I learned from it was dedication to keeping one clean and was a daily reminder of what I was doing.
Does anyone has also problems to find the right size? My hip is ca. 84 but my waist is ca. 82,5. What size should i order? 🙁
I have been wearing panties and stocking for a long time. Step 1 done1😍😍
I have been wearing panties etc intermittently all my life. Love the feeling. Sitting here at my kitchen island wearing cheeky panties with lace rimmed cami under nice fitting jeans and v neck pullover I discovered the article on correct posture. I am now hooked on this site. It is my intent to dress 2/3rds of the time but 90% of time with panties cami. Have been removing leg and chest hair for about 2 years now.
Right on Dalexus! When I went to see a psychiatrist about my crossdressing (a lifetime passion but in the closet), he encouraged me to come all the way out and embrace my femininity. His recommendation was a 70/30 division in terms of % of time spent as male or female. He also encouraged me to discover which was actually my “core identity” (male or female) and express that 70% of the time. So I applaud you with your 2/3 choice. I also do about 90% of time with panties and cami….just because it feels so right!
I’m a 66 year old amputee white man i love wearing all kinds of panties all colors Love Feminine Clothing Women’s leggings Soft feminine pants i Buy all my clothes in the women’s Department Just started ordering leggings Size medium
Margaret D. Parker – p.marg
– 21 years old male, soon moving out for myself, and I can’t wait to explore my femininity by then.
– Why not start week 1 today you ask? I got to many electronic devices, cloths, Bird Statues, basically allot of stuff witch takes up space in my tiny little room at my parents home.
– Me moving out I’ll be having allot more space and be more comfortable in my own personal lonely home.
I ended up buying a 3 pack of some white briefs.
I could not wait to explore more.
Although already wearing panties for a number of years, I decided to start afresh with a newly purchased white pair for this step.
I wore them each day for a week, hand-washing every evening and drying them overnight.
Hand-washing my own panties was so intimate and such a powerful reinforcement of this step that I may well stop machine washing my panties entirely.
Yesterday I went panty shopping in preparation for step 2.
Photos on my Pinterest account, under the ‘My Pink Femme’ section.
Luv,
Debbie.
I purchased Pretty pair of panty’s today, satin in the rear a lace in the front. I took my time and measured myself and found the exact size, oh they are just perfect, thank you Edith xxxooxxc
In with the beautiful new panties, out with the yucky male wear! My transition is on to a GREAT start!! I am loving this site and all the help you offer. Especially enjoying working out to your suggested sites. Thank You Edith!!
thank you so much for your help in my transtion always knew and hind my attraction and feeling of wanting to be a gurl and with your help i have started by buy my first pair of pink panties
H Edith. Just found your site. Have been dressing as a woman full time for the past three years but going to follow your site to experience a female birth. Thanks for your site
I love the Bali recommended panties thank you! However my waist is 31 and my hips are 33. Seems the small will be too big. Well I will order and find out, hah. White comes in even larger sizes (medium) but the pink two pack comes in small. Fingers crossed.
I love the collection I’ve built up over the last year. Eight months ago I rid myself of all the male clothing I owned.
I started today and can’t wait to complete this journey!
I really like that this site uses encouragement instead of humiliation- cuz im not really into that.
Im wearing a thong from now on!
Will hand wash it tonight and throw away one boxershort from my wardrobe.
Much love and kisses!
Cy thia
I WORSHIP ALL FEMININE LINGERIE, AND PANTIES ARE SIGNIFICANT IN THAT THEY WERE MY FIRST INDULGENCE INTO CROSSDRESSING. EVERY DAY I DRESS AS FEMININE AS I CAN
STOCKINGS GIRDLES TRAINING BRAS AND ANY THING THAT WILL NOT GET NOTICED
HIGH HEELS AND PINK SLIPPERS WHENEVER POSSIBLE. TWELVE YEARS IVE DISCOVERED HOW SEXY I FEEL WHEN I’M SHOPPING FOR NEW ITEMS, AND SPECIAL TOYS
Thank you for your program. I am sitting here in my white high waist panties feeling feminine. I have worn them all day at work
Thank you
I recently bought matching panties with my wife, but they are designed more for comfort than sexiness. I checked out your suggestions, and two of them – Jones & HANRO – are currently unavailable, which is a shame because the Jones would have been my first choice, but the Bali was still (mostly) in stock. Since my size was on sale for less than 50% off, I bought two.
Do you have any suggestions to replace the Jones and HANRO?
Hi I,ve been wearing panties off and on for years. Now iam full time wearer!!! Looking forward on taking this trip all the way. Been in chastity for 2 weeks now what a rush.
I love the first panties you’ve provide a link to, but those and the third ones are not available and it sounds like they are not going to be. I would love to support you in this little way 💕
I’ve completed one week of wearing panties to finish step 1. My own panties that I bought. I was very surprised how your directions stayed in my mind and how I longed for this day to come so I could blushingly share my obedience and the thrills it sent through me.
I have completed my first week.
I have about a dozen pairs of panties of all different styles and colors. I wear the basic cotton one when I go outside and it feels wonderful. I wear the others infrequently due to other circumstances. Looking forward to finishing all 40 steps. Enjoying my femininity because it feels free and liberating. Thank you.
This first assignment was extremely empowering and affirming. I found myself wanting to show them off and I felt so sexy knowing they were just under the surface, waiting to be discovered.
I started in August 2022.. I’m now wearing everything female…bra, camisole, corset, garter..nylons, panties or thongs, heels, pearl jewelry, makeup..watching and listening to feminization hypnosis tranches each night while sleeping…I’m slowly and completely doing feminine behavior..including dressing, makeup, weight control, body shaping, brest size increase pills starting Monday..Enjoying Life..Gary
I love the change to talk 👄 about my girly girl transformation…great forum…I’m interested in any feedback…Gary
I neglected to pack underware on a weekend getaway. My partner let me borrow a pair of cacique panties. The look of arousal on her face coupled with the soft fabric caressing my private was enough to get me hooked. I ordered a pretty white pair of cacique panties this morning. I wear panties daily now. But the 40 step program will assist me my quest for femininity.
I LOVE WEARING LINGERIE! I bought myself a dozen panties for Christmas in 1986. I always wear panties. I sleep in a long nylon nightgown and full brief nylon panties every night.
5-26-2023
I was roaming the internet and came across your Blog. 40 Steps To Femm. I browsed through the program and decided to give it a try. I have bought “Bali Women’s Essentials Double Support Briefs”
(Yes that is a mouth full). That were recommended. When I put them on, I was amazed at how light, airy and sensual they felt. Compared to men’s briefs. Which are coarse, heavy and stifling .
I am never going to men’s briefs again.
I have three pairs, one for wearing when one is washed and one as a spare.
I am so glad that you get to experience how sensual your new underwear is. I hope that this is that start of a long and rewarding journey along the femme path. Hugs