Sometimes the intention behind creating a national day can miss the mark when applied in a practical way. Ironically, that is how I feel each year when 11 October rolls around – National Coming Out Day.
I know that it was created for those who need a little push to step out of the closet – and that doing so together with others can create the moment of courage that has been lacking in your life. However, the morning of 12 October is often filled with great anxiety when people all over the world wake up alone, realizing that they can’t un-ring the bell from the day before. I have seen many who are struggling to cope with the consequences because they were not yet mentally ready to come out. I’m talking about the loneliness that comes from the loss of friends, and family, and sometimes a job loss is piled on top of that as well.
You choose the day to come out – a day when you are strong enough to cope with a public shift in how you view yourself. If you are not yet ready, don’t feel tempted because someone else has marked a day on the calendar and some of your circle of friends have chosen that day to come out. Be true to the girl who lives inside you. She will know when she is ready to come out. Hugs.
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I hope beyond hope that this caption is coming across the right way. It makes me happy to know that lots of people are crossing over a threshold on this day. But I also have a huge heart for those who aren’t there yet. I’m saddened by that dynamic, but still cheer for them. Their day is coming. Maybe my day is coming (as in more outward as a girly boy). Who knows. Maybe that day never arrives. Regardless of how that all plays out, every person is unique, special, and worthy of having a day when their true selves can be celebrated–whether alone or with many, today or some other day.
Love you all
Candie
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