I know that for most girls, just being girly is the happiest part of their day. But it would be wrong of me to assume that happiness is the only emotion that you can experience while being girly.
Part of being girly is connecting with your inner feelings and emotions. That is why keeping a feelings journal is so important.
Just because being girly makes you happy doesn’t mean that you can’t feel sad when you are girly.
If you feel sad then connect with that feeling. Grab a box of tissues and give yourself permission to have a good cry. Let your mascara run rivers down your cheeks. You’ll feel lighter afterward. Once you have had your good cry, be sure to read my article on how to reduce puffy eyes after crying.
This post was created by the talented Candie Hart and originally appeared on her Tumblr blog. It is reproduced here with her kind permission. Be sure to check out more about Candie at the end of the post and give her some Pink Femme love.
Being girly is great. It’s fantastic. It makes me feel so good to slide into a fresh pair of panties or spend a day in nothing but women’s clothes. I feel at peace when I’m luxuriating in a sweet-smelling bubble bath with sea salts, shaving my legs. There’s hardly a day that goes by that I’m not looking for some way to be and feel feminine. I know I’ll never be a girl, but at the same time, I want it so badly. So, being a girly boy is my choice. It simply makes me feel good to be girly.
To say that it’s all about happiness, though, is an unreal expectation that none of us should fool ourselves into believing. Like all of life, experience is the whole spectrum of emotions: happiness, sadness, fear, anger, confidence, etc. You can’t expect yourself to always be excessively happy when you’re “extra girly”. That’s not fair to you. You should experience sadness. It’s okay for you to feel sad when you’re wearing a pretty skirt. It’s okay to feel like pouting. Femininity isn’t failing you. It’s just one of many emotions that everybody experiences and should experience.
I’m sharing this with you because I know how often I, or others, emphasize being girly and being happy. Yes, there is truth to that and it’s a lot more encouraging to say “Being girly makes me happy” than “It’s okay to be sad when you’re girly.”
I want to experience sadness, heartache, pain, distress, fear, anxiousness, worry, bitterness, anger, etc. as the girly boy I am. Because when I do, I know it’s not just an escape. It’s real life. It’s the real me. It’s the fuller experience and more in tune with thriving in life than some wet dream of a feminine utopia.
With all of that said, I really do wish you all a happy day. But don’t be discouraged if there is sadness.
CandieHart
Candie is an enthusiast for all things fit and femme. All of her very creative captions carry the same positive, motivating ethos that I envisioned for Pink Femme when I started this site. Use this link to go to Candie’s blog on Tumblr and give her captions some much-needed love.
If you would like to see more of Candie’s longer-form content with captions here on Pink Femme – here is the link to the list of posts that have been published.
If you are new to Pink Femme, be sure to check out the unique 40 Steps To Femme program that will help you to feel more girly one delicate step at a time.