I would love to be able to tell you that the world is only filled with loving people who are totally supportive of your girliness. Unfortunately, that is not the case. There are certainly more supportive people than there once were, but society still has a long way to go.
As a result of this, there are many girls who start to believe that their girliness somehow makes them less of a person because of the girly aspect of their personality. This is not true. You are enough.
Taking away the girly feelings that live within you cannot make you more of a person. You cannot cut away a key part of your personality to become more whole. Feeling girly is part of what makes you more whole as a person, more complete. You are enough. Hugs.
This post was created by the talented Candie Hart and originally appeared on her Tumblr blog. It is reproduced here with her kind permission. Be sure to check out more about Candie at the end of the post and give her some Pink Femme love.
We all know what a crazy world we live in. We know that even though there are wonderfully loving people around us, so many of them still struggle to accept anything other than a dualistic framework for humanity. Just the other day, I watched as a dear friend shared a post on a social media platform, saying, “There are only two genders, male and female. There’s nothing in between.” He’s not exactly dumb, and he’s not an evil person, yet it’s all black and white to him, including issues surrounding gender and what that looks like…to him. I still consider him a friend, but I also know that he’s not someone with which I can openly talk about my girly ways. No worries. I knew that before he wrote that.
We all know people like that because they’re in our circles. It’s not just from a distance that we see them. They’re in our neighborhoods, in our workplaces, at our stores, even in our own homes–decent people, but with close-minded ideas. They expect birth-assigned genders. There’s no gray area biologically or psychologically–or fashionably. And because of the sheer volume of people like this within our communities, we feel the pressure to measure up, fake who we are, put on a show, and pretend that we belong. This is where I so often find myself, trying to be the “boy” that so many people expect me to be. So, I dress like a boy, walk like a boy, think like a boy, and talk like a boy–or at least boy enough to satisfy the crowd’s expectations.
I know me and I’m a girl boy. And I don’t mean the private time, fetish dream-world me. The me that is in public is the true me, the girly me. However, the expression of that public appearance is NOT me. It’s a show.
I’m a girly boy. YES! I’m a girly boy. Whether in private or in public, I’m a girly boy. So, why do I try so hard to portray myself as a boyish boy? Again, it’s all because of societal expectations. Even with growing communities of acceptance and tolerance, that dualistic gender pledge is still being stamped on every page of life.
You know who you are and I want to tell you that you are just who you need to be…you. You’re a girly boy, or maybe some other description. And no matter what expectations are pushed on you or how you cope with fitting in or flaking out, please know that I love you because YOU are enough.
Love you, girlies!
CandieHart
Candie is an enthusiast for all things fit and femme. All of her very creative captions carry the same positive, motivating ethos that I envisioned for Pink Femme when I started this site. Use this link to go to Candie’s blog on Tumblr and give her captions some much-needed love.
If you would like to see more of Candie’s longer-form content with captions here on Pink Femme – here is the link to the list of posts that have been published.
If you are new to Pink Femme, be sure to check out the unique 40 Steps To Femme program that will help you to feel more girly one delicate step at a time.