Some girls struggle to find the time to express their girliness as much as they would love to do and wonder if their life circumstances will ever allow their girly side to show.
Other girls have expressed that they feel as if my content focuses too much on being feminine and wonder whether living 24/7 as a woman needs all this extra stress of presenting super femme all the time.
In truth, the girls in both these instances might be loading themselves with unnecessary stress. Personally, I find it better to see how being femme makes me feel on the inside. After all, how you feel in the moment of being girly, no matter how that manifests, is important.
Hugs
This post was created by the talented Candie Hart and originally appeared on her Tumblr blog. It is reproduced here with her kind permission. Be sure to check out more about Candie at the end of the post and give her some Pink Femme love.
Do you remember that math problem or maybe that riddle or that piece of furniture from Ikea that you spent hours on trying to figure out, but couldn’t? Multiply that by years of anxiousness and confusion. Yeah, that’s been me for so many years in regard to my own sense of boyhood femininity. At times it was all about crossdressing. Other times, it was all about the lust. Sometimes it was trying to figure out if I should somehow be a woman. Then, there have been ups and downs, binges and purges, and a whole mix of attitudes toward my penchant of playful pretend girlhood. And yet, there were other times when I felt like I should toss it all away and never return.
It was always a wonder: “Why am I so drawn to femininity?” I kept wondering, Do I need to seek help? Do I want to truly be a woman? Do I simply have a kink? Have I forced an addiction on myself? Will I ever be normal? The questions abound; and I guess they always will. Yet, I’ve tempered a lot of that by simply deciding to wander instead of wonder. Be sure of it, so much about femininity is a wonder to me, but I don’t want to be absorbed with wondering all of the if, ands, buts, and other thans. So, I have resolved to wander in this irresistible passion for girliness. It may not be the answer for everyone, but for someone who’s not wanting to transition, who doesn’t plan to crossdress to the max, who has no desire to step out from their adult responsibilities to chase after a lust, I feel comfortable to simply WANDER in femininity.
I could spill out paragraph after paragraph detailing what I mean by this, but I won’t. You have to decide for yourself what “wandering” looks like for you. For me, it might look like wearing women’s clothes, but not necessarily to look like a woman. It might look like shaving body hair, smelling pretty, acting less manly, and encouraging boys to be truer versions of themselves. it might be androgyny. It might be sexual fantasies–straight, gay, bi, lesbian, a mixture of all, sissy, dom/sub, etc., etc. Whatever it is, I’ll choose to wander. It’s more than testing the waters and trying different things and thoughts (or positions). It’s simply wandering and enjoying femininity in whatever way my present course gives me a chance to see it.
So, I guess I would simply say I’m a wanderer and would encourage you to spend less time stressing over these passions and more time wandering through them. So, put on some cute leggings and sneakers and let’s wander together. Much love to you all!
CandieHart
Candie is an enthusiast for all things fit and femme. All of her very creative captions carry the same positive, motivating ethos that I envisioned for Pink Femme when I started this site. Use this link to go to Candie’s blog on Tumblr and give her captions some much-needed love.
If you would like to see more of Candie’s longer-form content with captions here on Pink Femme – here is the link to the list of posts that have been published.
If you are new to Pink Femme, be sure to check out the unique 40 Steps To Femme program that will help you to feel more girly one delicate step at a time.