One of the greatest fears that girls tell me about is the fear that friends or family will disown them. What I often see happen is that your true friends will see you as being happier and possibly healthier than you were before.
However, it is highly likely that they won’t understand why you want to be girly. It is not your responsibility to make anyone else understand why being girly is who you are. It only has to make sense to you.
There once was a time when being left-handed was seen as being wrong. Parents and teachers would try and force children to all be right-handed because that was “normal.” They could not understand why anyone would “want” to be left-handed. Meanwhile being left-handed was simply who some people were and that was their truth. Being left-handed did not make them any less lovable or worthy of acceptance. The same applies to girliness. Hugs
This post was created by the talented Candie Hart and originally appeared on her Tumblr blog. It is reproduced here with her kind permission. Be sure to check out more about Candie at the end of the post and give her some Pink Femme love.
For the very few people who know me and now know of my passion for femininity, the consensus is, “I don’t understand” or “I don’t get it” or “It doesn’t make sense.” And, for anyone who doesn’t have such desires, I can see why. Now, this doesn’t mean that the persons don’t love me, don’t accept me, or aren’t willing to understand in time. It could be a shock factor. Maybe in their mind, most things in life are black and white, male and female, left and right.
But then something or someone comes along and shows that life has color, that “gender” is ambiguous, and that social makeups are much more complex than pros and cons. They don’t understand because it doesn’t fit their narrative.
No matter how many people can fit into your circle of accepting friends (if you’re so lucky to have that), somebody, some people, won’t understand. It won’t make sense to them. It’s just a perversion or a fantasy.
Listen to me, girlies: Girliness only has to make sense to you. That’s what makes it right. Get it out of your mind that you are so wrong for wanting it. Erase it from your heart that you’re a degenerate because you like to wear pieces of material that have been fashioned for a particular gender other than the one assigned to you. If it is in you, a part of you, your whole being, or whatever, it just needs to make sense to you.
Have a precious day, my friends. You’re very special and I want special lives for all of you.
CandieHart
Candie is an enthusiast for all things fit and femme. All of her very creative captions carry the same positive, motivating ethos that I envisioned for Pink Femme when I started this site. Use this link to go to Candie’s blog on Tumblr and give her captions some much-needed love.
If you would like to see more of Candie’s longer-form content with captions here on Pink Femme – here is the link to the list of posts that have been published.
If you are new to Pink Femme, be sure to check out the unique 40 Steps To Femme program that will help you to feel more girly one delicate step at a time.