There’s No Reason For Guilt

Guilt and shame weave themselves together into a spiral that drains the chance at happiness out of you.

Guilt is an emotional response to something we have done and normally focuses us on the feelings of others. Shame pivots our focus inward and makes us see our entire self in a negative light.

An interesting statistic shows that women are quicker to feel humiliated than men. This means that women are more susceptible to the negative effects of shame. Men have those same emotions though they are usually suppressed.

You have every right to feel girly and nobody can take that away from you. It is part of who you are.

One way to shed that dreadful feeling of shame is to recognize that it is your inner woman that has allowed you to recognize those feelings. We can only change feelings that we are aware of.

Your girliness has brought you that awareness. Say thank you for the opportunity to improve by doing something extra girly today. You deserve it.

This post was created by the talented Candie Hart and originally appeared on her Tumblr blog. It is reproduced here with her kind permission. Be sure to check out more about Candie at the end of the post and give her some Pink Femme love.

Allow me to ask you a few questions:  Is it wrong to want to feel confident?  Is it wrong to want to feel comfortable?  Is it wrong to want to feel at peace?  Is it wrong to want to feel pleasure?  Is it wrong to want to feel passionate?  Is it wrong to want to feel happy?  Is it wrong to want to feel the excitement?  I suppose that I could come up with a whole list of questions; and to each of those, I’m certain that you would answer them the same way–with a big fat “NO”.  So, why would you answer the following question any differently?

… “Is it wrong to want to feel like a woman?”

No, it is not wrong, and no, there is not a good reason to feel guilty about it.  You might feel some nervousness, some anxiousness, maybe some timidity, but you shouldn’t feel guilty. 

A boy feels guilt when he steals a pair of panties.  A guy feels guilt when he cheats on his partner.  A man feels guilt when he lies about his credentials in an interview.  Lying, cheating, and stealing, in my opinion, are wrong.  When a person does something that compromises their integrity and negatively impacts others, feelings of guilt are an emotional response of the conscience (again, my opinion). 

Feeling girly, dressing feminine, wanting to be womanly, embracing femininity, etc. is not wrong and should not create guilt.  It’s not impacting other people negatively for a man to dress like, talk like, move like, think like, and love like a woman.  It’s not a compromise of integrity to want to feel feminine, girly, and less manly.  There should be no guilt because there is no wrong.

Being true to our girly selves should never cause us to shamefully wander into the dark prisons of guilt.  Let the light shine on your femininity and let the girly boy express himself/herself–at least a little more freely.  No matter how secretive you might be about “the woman inside”, you might keep her hidden because of your own circumstances, but never let it be because of guilt.  Guilt will destroy more than your girly self.  It can really hurt your overall being.  So, be done with feeling guilty over wanting to feel like a woman.

Let’s all sparkle a little brighter today without shame,

CandieHart

Candie is an enthusiast for all things fit and femme. All of her very creative captions carry the same positive, motivating ethos that I envisioned for Pink Femme when I started this site. Use this link to go to Candie’s blog on Tumblr and give her captions some much-needed love.

If you would like to see more of Candie’s longer-form content with captions here on Pink Femme – here is the link to the list of posts that have been published.

If you are new to Pink Femme, be sure to check out the unique 40 Steps To Femme program that will help you to feel more girly one delicate step at a time.