Not Outside Yet?  That’s Okay


I am sure that I am speaking to the vast majority of you that no matter where you are on the girly spectrum, you secretly wish that you could express more outward girliness if given the opportunity to do so safely. Yet, with the reality of this world we live in, the idea of stepping outside the comfort of your home dressed femme from head to toe would strike fear into many of your hearts.

That is why I have always advocated for doing what you can, within the circumstances of the world you live in. At the same time, we can all add a layer of girliness that helps us express our girly nature inwardly.

For example, we all know that dry lips feel horrible. So, why not carry some soothing lip balm with you? Then, after you have had something to drink, you can run some lip balm across your lower lip and then purse your lips together to transfer some to your top lip in the same way you would with lipstick. No matter what you are wearing, using lip balm is an accepted behavior to do in public – it is just you who will feel the difference.

Are you going to put on some lip balm today? Or do you have something else in mind that will help give you a surge of girly feelings through your body? Let me know. Hugs.

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This post was created by the talented Candie Hart and originally appeared on her Tumblr blog. It is reproduced here with her kind permission. Be sure to check out more about Candie at the end of the post and give her some Pink Femme love.

We all crave for further expressions of our feminine natures, something more than a few inconspicuous feminine items.  We want to take our femboy selves outside, maybe at night in something deliciously feminine.  Then, into daytime with the sun shining down on our cuteness.  Maybe into public places or around friends, dressed unmistakably as a woman would.  We want a greater sense of who we are and a better sense of acceptance by the people with whom we would share a fuller vision of ourselves. 

I think many of us would like to be as girly as we could possibly be outside the comfort of our homes. Maybe I speak for myself and not everyone, but I think I can say this all for at least a good portion of us passionate seekers of femininity.

There’s no doubt that so many of us girly boys are on varying levels of outward expression (wow! I use that word a lot).  Even the ways we try to express ourselves are so very different.  Then, there are also our levels of comfort for when, how, and where we express our femininity.  For some girly boys–and this can include myself in some ways–going outside in a girly fashion is outside the comfort zone.  It’s too bad that some people claim that as being cowardly.

It made my heart happy the other day when I saw a meme on “National Coming Out Day.”  It read something to the effect of “Not ready to come out?  That’s OK.” 

I want you to know that it’s perfectly fine for you to experience your femininity in the comfort of your home.  Never feel like you are less than worthy by staying private.  If the timing is ever right, or when the timing is right, you can make that bold step then–and it might even be in heels!  Who knows?!

My favorite part of you is that you share in our mutual love and admiration for girliness.  No matter where you are on the spectrum of public expression, you inspire me–and I hope I do you too…  If this means letting yourself go all girl inside your home, private, alone, and in secret, then go for it, and don’t be ashamed.  This girly journey needs to be a comfort trip, not a stress-laden one. 

Much love to you all,

CandieHart

Candie is an enthusiast for all things fit and femme. All of her very creative captions carry the same positive, motivating ethos that I envisioned for Pink Femme when I started this site. Use this link to go to Candie’s blog on Tumblr and give her captions some much-needed love.

If you would like to see more of Candie’s longer-form content with captions here on Pink Femme – here is the link to the list of posts that have been published.

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Edith

I stay in shape by trail running. When I am not writing posts to help you be as feminine as you can be, I work as a therapist.

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