Nearly every girl I have ever spoken to says that she feels better about herself when she is in touch with her inner femme energy. She is able to look in the mirror and like the girl looking back at her – even if the girl in the mirror isn’t perfect. She can smile back at her reflection and be happy that her inner girl has a chance to show herself. That feeling is so worthwhile.
No matter how much or how little you can dress up, nothing can take away the energy that your inner girl adds to your life. Give yourself the chance to see that femme energy in the mirror, no matter what you are wearing because it’s worth it. Hugs!
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This post was created by the talented Candie Hart and originally appeared on her Tumblr blog. It is reproduced here with her kind permission. Be sure to check out more about Candie at the end of the post and give her some Pink Femme love.
One of the hardest things for me to come to grips with is this sort of paradox of feminine confidence. On one hand, I truly believe that being girly is so worth it. Yet, on the other hand, I’m so anxiously secretive about it. Do you ever struggle with that? I know that I do.
Being feminine is incredibly fulfilling, it builds constructive awareness, and encourages positive self-image; not to mention that being girly is just plain sexy. So, why, if it’s worth every effort, is it so difficult to openly exhibit it? Yes, there is the whole “cultural perception.” We all know how lame gender perceptions are and will continue to be within our lifetimes. To put that to the side, though, perhaps part of it is a fear of actually doing something and being someone more genuine to one’s own personality. That’s actually pretty scary if you think about it. Being authentic to your innermost passions is a challenging path of personal responsibility. Once you’re out there in transparency, it’s tough to revert back to old habits, especially as people grow accustomed to the better “you”.
As I have indicated in many posts, I’m not an out-and-flout-it girly boy. But I am girly, at least to an extent. I decided for myself that I don’t have to be macho–not even neutral. I can be softer, gentler, and smoother. I can be, in a sense, dainty even in my most male days. And what I have found is that when I truly express myself in a feminine way, in girly clothing, or with feminine rhetoric, I’m not only more sure of myself, I’m much more transparent to people around me. I’m actually a funny guy, a fun guy, a great confidant of a guy, and a more loving husband of a guy when I’m girlier–if that makes any sense,
It’s frightening, to be honest. It’s not always easy to be the feminine boy on the block. It’s not easy to be girly and still fit in. And it’s not always easy to keep up the guise of masculinity when the little miss wants to shine. Let me tell you though, it’s so totally worth it to be free and feminine. Like myself, it might not be the most extreme, but when you finally release and let your girliness push through in some way–or in many ways–you’ll find yourself. You might even wonder what kept you back for so long.
Much love and girly happiness to you,
CandieHart
Candie is an enthusiast for all things fit and femme. All of her very creative captions carry the same positive, motivating ethos that I envisioned for Pink Femme when I started this site. Use this link to go to Candie’s blog on Tumblr and give her captions some much-needed love.
If you would like to see more of Candie’s longer-form content with captions here on Pink Femme – here is the link to the list of posts that have been published.
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