When it comes to the realm of fear, living a girly life is exactly the same as just about anything else that you might want to do in your life. Fear of failure and fear of rejection are the two biggest fears that we all face at some stage in our life.
These two fears are likely keeping you from being as girly as you can be. They are the same fears that stop you from asking someone out on a date. They can also keep you from starting a new project.
I felt these exact same fears when I was contemplating whether to start Pink Femme or not. Had I given in and let those fears control me then this blog that you are reading would never have started. Learn to identify when those fears are making you doubt yourself. Know that in those moments you are pushing at the boundaries of your comfort zone. Hugs
This post was created by the talented Candie Hart and originally appeared on her Tumblr blog. It is reproduced here with her kind permission. Be sure to check out more about Candie at the end of the post and give her some Pink Femme love.
I would guess that many of us who spend hours of quality time in Tumblr-land are not as free to be open about our girly preferences as we would wish to be. We’d love to really glam it up in the girliest way, but life doesn’t afford us that luxury–at least not openly and anywhere. There’s a little voice in me that keeps saying, “Get over your fearful self, dress however you want, and don’t worry about what people think.” But is it fear? Is it fair to call that fear? Or is it something else?
I can put up a pretty good front in our anonymous, world-spanning camp of femininity, but do I have the same kind of confidence in real life? Truthfully, I don’t. Yet, I don’t believe that I’m fearful in my cautiousness. I’ve embraced the fact that I’m girly, even if I can’t overly portray it. I’ve jumped into it without much anxiousness. The facts are as they are, though. I can’t jump headfirst into the deep end. It’s more like I’m wading in the shallow end in my orange bikini.
As someone wisely messaged me, following a sweet compliment to this blog, “You have a full life.” This person is so right. There’s so much more going on than whether or not I can tuck myself into panties every day.
Indeed, I don’t think it is fear, but rather reasonableness. I don’t want to have fear during my personally-gifted opportunities to express and clothe myself in all of my girliness. I’m so privileged to have Candie moments. And I absolutely adore those moments. They’re fun, sexy, and … “forbidden.” Yet, I can also be reasonable and be the husband, father, friend, worker, and neighbor that is needed from me without a full-blown Candie experience.
I hope that you don’t fear being feminine. Being a femboy can truly be fulfilling. Even if it’s within reasonable constraints (or restraints if that’s your thing), being girly brings some yin to your yang–it can provide some balance and harmony to your life, and as I have discovered, with your loved one too. Don’t be fearful of it, jump in, and you can still be reasonable … and have a very full life too.
Let’s be girly together,
CandieHart
Candie is an enthusiast for all things fit and femme. All of her very creative captions carry the same positive, motivating ethos that I envisioned for Pink Femme when I started this site. Use this link to go to Candie’s blog on Tumblr and give her captions some much-needed love.
If you would like to see more of Candie’s longer-form content with captions here on Pink Femme – here is the link to the list of posts that have been published.
If you are new to Pink Femme, be sure to check out the unique 40 Steps To Femme program that will help you to feel more girly one delicate step at a time.