This caption and post by Candace has got me thinking. Am I guilty of the same things that she mentions? The answer, unfortunately, is yes. I’m not that good at replying to messages quickly – and certainly not as quickly as many expect. I have been asked why I’m not on platforms like Kik, Snap, and Insta. The truth is that I can hardly keep up with the messages on the platforms where I have profiles. I don’t see how signing up on additional profiles will improve the situation.
Part of my excuse is time-zone-related. By way of an example, I’ve had someone in the US sending me a DM at about 8 pm their time and following it up with a further 6 or 7 DMs demanding to know why I’m not replying and wanting to know if I am ignoring them. The sad truth in this situation is that depending on where you are in the US, the time difference to Europe will be between 6 and 8 hours. So your 8 pm will be between 2 am and 4 am for me. No prizes for guessing why I’m not online to reply immediately… For Candace, her time zone difference is even greater.
I really appreciate receiving DMs, messages, and emails from you girls. They motivate me to keep producing content on Pink Femme – knowing that the content is helping someone. There was a time when I would start my day by trying to respond to each and every one of those messages before continuing with writing new content on Pink Femme. The trouble with that approach was that I’d get to the end of a month with zero new Pink Femme content. A prime example of this is the 40-Steps-To-Femme program – I published Step 31 in June 2022, and only managed to finish Step 32 at the end of October 2023.
I’m at my most creative in the morning, so lately I haven’t even looked at my messages in the morning and just got busy writing new content. After that is my workout, shower, and day job. In the evening I’ll try and get through as many messages as possible, knowing that I got some content created in the morning. Without this shift, Step 32 of the 40 steps would still be on the to-do list at the end of the year.
Just like Candace, I’ll say: I AM HERE. There is a chance that it will take me some time to get to all your messages. I really appreciate them. Knowing that my work on Pink Femme is helping girls get through their day motivates me to keep going. I’m not on my apps (Discord, FetLife, Twitte/X, Pinterest, email) 24/7. So, unfortunately, I won’t be able to respond to DMs immediately.
Even so, you are all beautiful and I love you. Hugs.
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This post was created by the talented Candie Hart and originally appeared on her Tumblr blog. It is reproduced here with her kind permission. Be sure to check out more about Candie at the end of the post and give her some Pink Femme love.
I’m not always the best at replying to every note or message. I wish I could. And I don’t mean replying back with short answers, but replying back with substance. I have to use my best judgment and in the time I have. If you send me a message saying “Hi” or “Whazzup?” I’m probably not going to respond. And if I do, it may be a short “hi”. If you ask me a question that requires a life story, I’m probably not going to respond, at least in length. I just don’t have time. I want to answer, at least in part for the benefit of you all because I want to be “here” for you. I want that because I need that from others.
With that said, I do hope you know that I truly wish to walk with you in my heart. I hope you know that I relate in some way to you and feel you. I earnestly want to be of help to you. If for no other reason, I want to walk with you because I know the loneliness of our passion for girliness. It’s not always welcome. HA! It’s rarely welcomed! I totally get it, and most girlies understand that too. Just know that you’re not walking this path alone. I and others may not be present in real time and space, but we’re there. I’m here and with you in some way.
I love you, girly boys. Maybe you don’t get that very often. But I say it often and will continue to say it…I love you. And if ever you need to feel that, just let me know. To ask for it might seem plastic, but it will always come in response from me with genuine concern. I love you. I’m here. I understand.
Much love to you all!
CandieHart
Candie is an enthusiast for all things fit and femme. All of her very creative captions carry the same positive, motivating ethos that I envisioned for Pink Femme when I started this site. Use this link to go to Candie’s blog on Tumblr and give her captions some much-needed love.
If you would like to see more of Candie’s longer-form content with captions here on Pink Femme – here is the link to the list of posts that have been published.
If you are new to Pink Femme, be sure to check out the unique 40 Steps To Femme program that will help you to feel more girly one delicate step at a time.