I May Not be the Perfect…


I often hear the lament of girls who are either starting or have started their transition that they feel as if they are not perfect, or perfect-looking girls. This usually is the result of comparing themselves to some kind of media-created standard of what beauty is.

I remember reading in an article that: “You will never look like the girl in the magazine because the girl in the magazine doesn’t look like the girl in the magazine.” If that makes sense…

There is something far more important here that we all need to be aware of. Chasing after an impossible beauty standard not only causes us stress but also blocks us from being able to fully express who we are as girls. The world around us can feel as if it is preventing us from expressing who we are, don’t allow perfection to suppress you even further.

That is why I encourage you to do something every day that makes you feel girly on the inside. Doing that allows you to express your girly emotions in a way that will help to build you up. Hugs.

Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways. – Sigmund Freud.

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This post was created by the talented Candie Hart and originally appeared on her Tumblr blog. It is reproduced here with her kind permission. Be sure to check out more about Candie at the end of the post and give her some Pink Femme love.

I May Not be the Perfect…

…girly boy, but I’ve got it in my soul.  It’s my choice, it’s my nature, it’s my whim, it’s my desire, it’s my passion.  Yes, there are many things that I’ve done wrong in my life.  There are many things that have gone wrong too.  Of all the wrongs I have had in my life, being girly is definitely not one of them.  For too long, I’ve been embarrassed about it and scorned for it.  I’ve tried “correcting” it, purging it, sweeping it away, and ignoring it.  I have felt sad over it, angered about it, and lonely through it.  Yet, I am here to tell you today that this girliness about me is something that is NOT…I REPEAT…NOT wrong. 

I enjoy the fact that I’m a feminine boy, and the fact that I want to enhance my girliness is something that is right for me.  Sure, I’ll never be a girl or be extra flamboyant.  It’s not about being like that.  It’s about being me.  How more “right” can that be?

I wish for something similar for you.  First, I’d tell you not to beat yourself up over something as silly as trying to figure yourself out.  Everybody goes through those kinds of seasons–sometimes many of them.  But secondly, if girliness is right for you, then embrace it for its worth.  You’ll be a better person because of it.

Have a happy day, my girly friends!

CandieHart

Candie is an enthusiast for all things fit and femme. All of her very creative captions carry the same positive, motivating ethos that I envisioned for Pink Femme when I started this site. Use this link to go to Candie’s blog on Tumblr and give her captions some much-needed love.

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Edith

I stay in shape by trail running. When I am not writing posts to help you be as feminine as you can be, I work as a therapist.

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