It is your girliness that allows you to be more in touch with your feelings and emotions. That allows you to both feel love and give love more intensely.
All too often I hear the words: “If only someone will love me for being girly then I will be ok.” The truth is that the first person to love you for being girly MUST be you. Until the time that you learn to love yourself for being girly, you will subconsciously reject anyone else who tries to love you for being girly.
This post was created by the talented Candie Hart and originally appeared on her Tumblr blog. It is reproduced here with her kind permission. Be sure to check out more about Candie at the end of the post and give her some Pink Femme love.
Honestly, I have to remind myself of this from time to time. Our society has a way of reminding us that for a boy to be girly is “unnatural.” They’re dead wrong, of course. But it’s still being said. This has a way of driving our thoughts into guilt, shame, embarrassment, and rejection. It’s a push against what we all know is right and good for some men. And, if you think it’s only the men who suggest this, think again. Many many women assert this oppression against girly boys–maybe even more so than the men.
We would think that in the 21st century that this wouldn’t be an issue; that any guy could be as girly as he wished without being ostracized. It’s just not the case. Since everybody tends to be influenced (at least in their mind) by much of what is pressed upon them by contemporary culture, we have to remind ourselves to love ourselves girly.
I love myself for being girly. I have to tell myself that. And it’s good to do so. If I can convince myself of a lie, surely I can convince myself of this truth. I have “girl” coursing through my veins. I have “woman” tickling my thoughts. I have “feminine” in the air I breathe. It’s who I am. And although I will always be “male”, I know that I will always be girly. I dare not hate myself for it. I dare not resent myself for some desire that is said to be natural. I dare not be embarrassed because I’m “different” than my proposed gender.
I’m girly. Do you hear that, world? I’m a girly boy, I’m proud to be girly, and I won’t stop being girly–and increasing in being girly. I love myself girly.
Was that too much of a rant? I hope not and I know that so many of you relate. Let’s stop catering to the masses. Love yourself girly.
Much love to you all!
CandieHart
Candie is an enthusiast for all things fit and femme. All of her very creative captions carry the same positive, motivating ethos that I envisioned for Pink Femme when I started this site. Use this link to go to Candie’s blog on Tumblr and give her captions some much-needed love.
If you would like to see more of Candie’s longer-form content with captions here on Pink Femme – here is the link to the list of posts that have been published.
If you are new to Pink Femme, be sure to check out the unique 40 Steps To Femme program that will help you to feel more girly one delicate step at a time.