I have heard many saying that expressing your girliness makes you somehow less of a person than you were before. I don’t believe this, not even for a moment.
Each and every one of us has some degree of girliness as part of our personality. Therefore, by expressing your girly side you are showing the whole you. There is no way that expressing the complete you makes you somehow less than when you were just expressing part of your personality.
I believe that expressing the whole of who you are, makes you more of a person, not less. You are adding to who you were before.
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This post was created by the talented Candie Hart and originally appeared on her Tumblr blog. It is reproduced here with her kind permission. Be sure to check out more about Candie at the end of the post and give her some Pink Femme love.
Some might wonder why I would even suggest that girliness is good for boys. The short answer is that I believe it is. But I don’t guess that’s what anybody is looking for in a blog claiming that girliness is good for boys.
To begin, I would say that girliness is not for all boys, but that seems to be obvious. At the same time, girliness is something positive for boys who have never thought about it, been tempted by it, or have experienced it. These are the boys that I believe would benefit from girliness, even if it’s only occasional.
How is girliness good for boys? I’m no counselor. I have no degree that would even come close to giving me the resources or knowledge to make an educated assessment. With that said, I do believe that my experience with cross-dressing, being girly, and a lifetime of interest in being who I am in my most natural way of being, gives me some insight to answer this question. I’ll offer three thoughts that are more than “It feels great!” I could offer more, but I invite you to answer in the comments and want you to have a say.
1) It Counters Male Toxicity: Not every man’s man is poisoned with chauvinistic attitudes, but the aura is prevalent and tempting for all boys–and that’s not even taking into account the systemic problem of male domination that still presents itself today against women. Beware: Girliness doesn’t bring a boy down to the level of women. That’s a toxic attitude and one that is even present with “sissies in humiliation.” To feel degraded because one is made to be feminine is a result of the problem, not a healthy answer to it. Girliness can and should elevate women. When a boy is girly, he develops an admiration of the strength and versatility of women instead of thinking of them as less.
2) It Provides Balance: Sure, it sounds cliche. Everybody these days is looking for some balance in their lives. For many boys, having this experience between boyhood and girliness may indeed be more than a motivational speaker’s selling point. It can bring some balance and a sense of wholeness. Girly boys find ways to be and feel softer. They look for ways to expand upon who they are. Girliness provides the opportunity for boys to enhance their lives, while also tempering their societal-expected views.
3) It Aids in their Health: While it is true that there are men who are just as concerned for personal hygiene, girly boys take it a step further. They are concerned not simply with oral health and body odor, they are extra attentive to skin, hair, and nail health. They are concerned about being well-groomed, including but not limited to body hair. There is physical health too. Being girly can translate into better food portions, more movement and flexibility, and workouts. And there is also mental health in which girliness promotes a more nurturing attitude toward oneself.
I can’t imagine that these three thoughts are earth-shattering or that they are the glue that adheres a boy to a more feminine lifestyle. But I do hope they are some thoughts that are helpful if you or someone you know tends to be or needs to have some girliness in his life. There is obviously a novelty to being girly that is pursued by many. I don’t blame them; and many who began their journey into girliness began with fantasies and erotic imaginations. It’s not all bad. Girliness, though, can offer so much more than eroticism. It can be good for boys. It could be exactly what you need.
Much love to you, my friend!
CandieHart
Candie is an enthusiast for all things fit and femme. All of her very creative captions carry the same positive, motivating ethos that I envisioned for Pink Femme when I started this site. Use this link to go to Candie’s blog on Tumblr and give her captions some much-needed love.
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