There are two ways to interact with the world as a girl. Some girls are mean, jealous, and nasty. Other girls are sweet, kind, and loving.
I believe that the girls in our community should try and be girly sweet whenever possible. The world out there is filled with people who want to put us down and humiliate us for being who we are. Sometimes the support that girls get here is the only kind words they get to see.
Be girly sweet and supportive so that we can make our world a better place. Hugs.
This post was created by the talented Candie Hart and originally appeared on her Tumblr blog. It is reproduced here with her kind permission. Be sure to check out more about Candie at the end of the post and give her some Pink Femme love.
You might hear it on a rare occasion: “He’s such a sweet man.” That’s actually a nice compliment, and though “sweet” is stereotypically a trait to describe some women, it has nothing to do with being feminine. We might think of some men as kind, generous, loving, and gentle. If he enriches people’s lives with these traits and it’s displayed with humility, then “sweet” would be an appropriate word to use. At least, that’s how I would describe “sweet”. However, if we can take those same traits in a sweet man and coat them with some sugar and spice and everything nice, then we’d have the delectable treat of a sweet girly boy.
When one considers how to treat other people, perhaps “girly sweet” is the right frame of mind for effeminate males who wish to be girlier in their day-to-day living. Of all people, girly boys should be kind, generous, loving, and gentle: kind talkers, generous in heart, loving toward all people, and gentle in body language; and all of that without even a sampling of egotistical pride. It would be nice to see this in anybody, but it is certainly the type of disposition that girly boys should want to have.
What’s the difference, though? A man can be manly and also be sweet. So, how might a girly boy be sweet that is different than a sweet manly man? How does he decorate his sweetness with sugar and spice and everything nice? It’s surely more than being sweet while wearing panties, though we all know that is a must.
Being girly sweet, in my opinion, is how it is dressed up. Take a cupcake, for illustration. A vanilla or chocolate cupcake without icing is sweet, like a sweet man, even if somewhat dry and plain. It’s still enjoyable; still edible. Dress it up, however, with some pretty icing, maybe some sprinkles, and it changes the dynamics of the treat. Girly sweet is the completed cupcake for everything that it offers; dressed up and pretty–and we all know about dressing up pretty!
Consider how my description of a sweet person might look like, clothed in some sugar and spice: Kind words are spoken softly with higher-pitched inflections. Hand gestures are soft, narrow, gentle, and inviting rather than bold, obtrusive, and wide–expressed from the elbows rather than the shoulders. Generosity includes transparency and empathy, coupled with a more spirited animation of feminine expressions. And love shows pity, compassion, and tenderness; it is always listening with the eyes and not just the ear, touching lives with endearment. And above anything else, a sweet girly boy is never a b****h. He exudes the image of a sweet demure girl. He is almost bashful but confident in his femininity.
Maybe I have much to learn in my growth toward girly-sweet boyhood, but it’s a start. Perhaps with some years of training and more experience, I will be able to display it and describe it better. In the meantime, I’ll try my best to dress it up with girly fashions and practice, practice, practice.
Regardless of how it might look to me or to you, I can’t help but think of what an incredible person a man becomes when he is “girly sweet”. It’s the kind of girly boy that I believe my wife deserves on the occasions she needs me to be girly and I think any woman would be thrilled to have one too.
Be sweet, girly boys! Girly Sweet.
CandieHart
Candie is an enthusiast for all things fit and femme. All of her very creative captions carry the same positive, motivating ethos that I envisioned for Pink Femme when I started this site. Use this link to go to Candie’s blog on Tumblr and give her captions some much-needed love.
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