Being feminine is an essential part of who you are. Even though I adore being girly there are certain styles that just don’t work with my body shape. I’ve been an athlete all my life so there is no way I can sport the kind of body shape that will make it to the cover of the Victoria’s Secret catalog.
There are different ways that you can be girly and how you choose to express your girliness is up to you. Maybe you express your inner truth in a way that is different from those around you. That is nothing to be ashamed of. Think of it instead as your worth. You are worthy. Worthy of respect. Worthy of love. Hugs.
This post was created by the talented Candie Hart and originally appeared on her Tumblr blog. It is reproduced here with her kind permission. Be sure to check out more about Candie at the end of the post and give her some Pink Femme love.
There might be a sense of taboo about it, which is some of the fun of being girly, but in a greater and more real sense, there is no reason for a guy to feel shameful about being feminine. It’s who you (we) are. If some people can’t deal with that, it’s not our problem. It’s their shame. For a male to embrace femininity is something of worth because it’s real, personal, and authentic.
I adore feminine things. I know that there are some things that aren’t for me, that don’t fit me, that don’t represent me, but for the most part, I simply like femininity on me. There are certainly times when I feel guilt over this, maybe shame, perhaps a feeling that I am dishonoring my gender because of it. But it’s not because I truly feel that way. It’s rather because pressure from the outside insists that I should feel that way.
So, perhaps I can offer my opinion to you because I know many of you struggle with it too. There’s nothing to be ashamed of. Be girly. Be effeminate. Act the part, dress the part, talk like it, think like it, and just be your feminine guy self–partially or completely. It’s up to you. It’s your choice to be you. Life is too short to be in knots over how some lifeless ogre thinks genders should behave.
With that said, I wish the opportunity afforded us to be a lot more free and open with our effeminate ways. But no matter how limited our chances might be, there still remains this truth that should remain in your heart and swell there: embracing femininity is not a shame. Perhaps instead, it’s your worth.
Much love to you!
CandieHart
Candie is an enthusiast for all things fit and femme. All of her very creative captions carry the same positive, motivating ethos that I envisioned for Pink Femme when I started this site. Use this link to go to Candie’s blog on Tumblr and give her captions some much-needed love.
If you would like to see more of Candie’s longer-form content with captions here on Pink Femme – here is the link to the list of posts that have been published.
If you are new to Pink Femme, be sure to check out the unique 40 Steps To Femme program that will help you to feel more girly one delicate step at a time.