Allowing myself to feel my girly emotions makes me happy and I’m sure you feel the same way too. Those feelings compliment who you are and make you a more complete person.
Negating or suppressing those inner feelings won’t make them magically vanish. Instead, you suppressing those feelings is akin to insulting that part of who you truly are. The world is already full of insults and negativity. There is no need to pile any more onto yourself. Hugs
This post was created by the talented Candie Hart and originally appeared on her Tumblr blog. It is reproduced here with her kind permission. Be sure to check out more about Candie at the end of the post and give her some Pink Femme love.
Last weekend as I went about doing some shopping, clad in nothing but women’s clothing, I felt an overwhelming peace of mind. There was clarity. I wasn’t in this fog of being girly me but passing myself off as manly me. I was safe in my meditative thoughts, happy and content. I felt gracious in my movement, but perhaps a little too femmed up in my talk. I held my head up, there had to be a spark in my eye, and a little sway to my hips.
Of course, there was no real issue about safety, because the way I was dressed was boyish enough not to draw too much attention. At least no one was so bold to call me out even if they could tell that my jeans and shirt were all feminine cut or that my bra straps were showing through my cute hoodie. I still wonder about a woman who seemed to give me a second glance, but that’s not pertinent.
What I noticed was something that I often feel when I dress in this way: my girliness compliments me. I think of this in two ways. First, it compliments my spirit like encouragement from a friend: “You’re a great friend. You look pretty today. Your ass looks fine in those jeans.” (i wish). My girliness, though I know it’s not a separate part of me, congratulates me, builds me up, and pushes me to allow my better nature to be freer.
Secondly, and the way we would typically think of it, it compliments me like fleece-lined leggings on a cold day. It makes up for what is missing, warms me, and balances me. It makes me a more rounded person, and as a reward, gives me greater energy and a better rhythm to life.
This is who I am. This is who I like to be. This is who I can be. Girliness is so woven into me that it’s an insult to deny it. Not an insult to girliness, though that could be true. It’s an insult to me. To deny my girliness is a smack in the face of all my life, my experiences, my joys, my passions, my likes, dislikes, emotions, and health.
My dear girly friends, please recognize how your girliness compliments you. Don’t deny it. To deny it is self-deflating. To push it away is self-rejection. It’s an insult to you–all of who you are–to disavow the femininity coursing through you. So please, don’t do that to yourself. Don’t belittle yourself. You’re too precious for that.
With the deep love of a feminine spirit,
CandieHart
Candie is an enthusiast for all things fit and femme. All of her very creative captions carry the same positive, motivating ethos that I envisioned for Pink Femme when I started this site. Use this link to go to Candie’s blog on Tumblr and give her captions some much-needed love.
If you would like to see more of Candie’s longer-form content with captions here on Pink Femme – here is the link to the list of posts that have been published.
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