Even though Candace wrote this for/about the Memorial Day weekend, it applies equally well to other family weekends as well as the other times when we seem to be distanced from our girly essence.
Sometimes when life circumstances keep us from being as girly as we’d love to be, it may seem as if our girliness is fading away and will disappear. That is not the case. The girl that lives within you is still there even if she’s not right there at the surface. She’s waiting patiently for the opportunity to show herself again.
Let’s all do something today that validates her existence. Sit/stand/walk up straight with your best girly posture – just like I’ll be doing today too. Hugs.
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This post was created by the talented Candie Hart and originally appeared on her Tumblr blog. It is reproduced here with her kind permission. Be sure to check out more about Candie at the end of the post and give her some Pink Femme love.
Traveling over the course of 10 days with only a few items of femininity in my possession, was delightful, yet painstaking. It was nice to be able to wear my women’s tennis shoes almost every day and to have panties on for the entire trip. But it was also a saddening experience because I just didn’t have enough Candie with me and my urgings for her began to diminish over time. It was as if I had left her back in my home. At first, I kept aching for a bra, for cute little shorts and top, a sweet strappy gown to wear to bed, or to work out in my leggings and shelf bra tanks. Of course, my wife was the one who permitted what little femininity I had with me. For that I was thankful. I just wish I had had more girliness to revel in. But that sort of changed within a few days.
Over the short period that we traveled, I sort of got used to it. And that made me question myself: “Is Candie really that important?” “Is it worth it to spend the amount of time that I dedicate to cheering on my fellow girly boys and sissies?” I even wondered if I should continue with the blogs that I write or the captions I create.
But I considered what was happening to me. I was being distanced from my purpose, from my place in a very special tribe. I wasn’t getting the encouragement that I craved for Candie. And that was the reason for my lapse in girly aspirations. I was floating in masculinity, even if I had on my panties.
So, now that I’m back, I’m not going to give up. I’ll keep at it. There are a lot of girly boys who need my encouragement just as I need theirs. There are a lot of boys who need to discover this bliss, who otherwise would just be regular ordinary men. There are girls who need to know that their boyfriends and husbands can be better suited as feminine friends and lovers. Being girly is a gift to the world. It’s a transformation of thought, of emotion, of health, and of beauty. The world needs more of “us”, not less of us. And I believe it groans for softness, more than harshness, for gentleness, more than rigidness. Some males need female aspirations, girly dress, and demeanor. It breathes equality and compromise of gender roles and appearances.
Keep at it, my girly friends. I need you. You need me. The world needs us. Don’t give up. You never know when your comment, your post, your like, your reblog, your message, or your voice might make some boy or some girl appreciate femininity all the more. You don’t have to change the world, you just need to be the small change that the world is longing for.
Much love to ya! And Happy Memorial Day!
Candie
Candie is an enthusiast for all things fit and femme. All of her very creative captions carry the same positive, motivating ethos that I envisioned for Pink Femme when I started this site. Use this link to go to Candie’s blog on Tumblr and give her captions some much-needed love.
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