Balancing all the aspects of our day-to-day life can be challenging even before we add in all the ways we can feel girly on the inside while going about our day. Life can be hard enough as it is. Don’t add to the burden by beating yourself down for being less girly than you want to be.
Many girls confuse feeling contented with stagnation. That is far from the truth. To me feeling contented is being OK with where you are right now in your girly process. You can still be making progress while feeling contented.
Each day you might not have the opportunity to be as girly as you want, but you do the best that you can. Be OK with doing the best that you could and don’t make life harder for yourself. You’ll end up holding yourself back from being the girl you want to be.
This post was created by the talented Candie Hart and originally appeared on her Tumblr blog. It is reproduced here with her kind permission. Be sure to check out more about Candie at the end of the post and give her some Pink Femme love.
But it’s so Hard! (no, not that!)
I want so desperately to be content. And that about goes toward every aspect of life. Don’t you find that difficult? For me, whether it’s money, job, knowledge, talent, material possessions, appreciation, or even the number of girly tennis shoes in my closet, contentment is tough. How hard indeed to be content with who you are, with what you’ve got, in the place where you are!
Clearly, contentment doesn’t stifle progress. It’s doesn’t have to be static or lazy. Contentment creates peace with where you are and with who you are. So, perhaps contentment makes progress more attainable and joyful? I’m sure I need to learn.
I consider my girliness to be quite challenging. Shaving my legs, wearing panties, my girly shoes or jeans, the occasional girl top, or the sporadic days that call for a sports bra under my boy shirt, are all delights that make me feel more like a girl. Slathering my body with a floral lotion, sculpting my short fingernails to a subtle oval, plucking a few eyebrows, painting toenails, or permitting myself to have more feminine mannerisms, are subtle things that can make me happy. It’s all challenging because, whereas I adore being feminine, I also like being a man. And I guess that this is where I must be content to be a feminine boy–to not be a girl, but to be girly as a boy.
For many of you, this meandering simply doesn’t apply. You won’t be content until you’re all girl. For others of you, you really don’t want to be feminine or girly or “swishy” even–you just like your sissy moments. That is fine and I’m proud of you for being you. But, for those like myself, perhaps we will find more peace for ourselves by forging on in our femininity without an end goal of losing our bits or growing new bits. And I think that’s okay, even if I find that tough to believe. Maybe, that’s contentment in being a feminine boy.
I need to hear this as much as it needs to be said: There’s only one of you. That means that you are unique. Respect you for who you are and how that might mean something special for who you will be sometime and somewhere in the future.
Much love to you all
CandieHart
Candie is an enthusiast for all things fit and femme. All of her very creative captions carry the same positive, motivating ethos that I envisioned for Pink Femme when I started this site. Use this link to go to Candie’s blog on Tumblr and give her captions some much-needed love.
If you would like to see more of Candie’s longer-form content with captions here on Pink Femme – here is the link to the list of posts that have been published.
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