A Better Mindset


Hardly a week goes by without a message from a girl expressing gratitude for the support and encouragement she received from reading the content here on Pink Femme. It is what gave them the courage to work through their inner feelings of shame and guilt.

There is something that I’d love to see more of in the world around us and that is for more people to be supportive and encouraging to those around them. This extends to more than encouraging everyone around you to be more girly. Be supportive and encouraging to them in whatever challenge they are facing. It lifts their energy and yours too.

If you are encouraging 4 people today, and they each encourage 4 people tomorrow, pretty soon you will find yourself living in a more uplifting immediate environment. Nobody wants to be the first to create positive change – they will rather wait for someone else to start creating the change and then carry that torch further up the road.

There is another reason why it is so important to be supportive and encouraging to those around you – especially if you are a girl who is not able to openly express her girliness in public. Being supportive and encouraging is part of being nurturing which helps strengthen the most feminine of the personality traits on the OCEAN scale.

So, every time you encourage someone either online or in real life it will help you to feel more femme on the inside without having to “dress up” and show anything to the outside world if your circumstances don’t permit that.

How about it girlfriend, who is in your orbit that can do with some encouragement in their life? Make that small effort to be encouraging and feel the benefit of becoming a little more femme on the inside at the same time. Hugs

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This post was created by the talented Candie Hart and originally appeared on her Tumblr blog. It is reproduced here with her kind permission. Be sure to check out more about Candie at the end of the post and give her some Pink Femme love.

It is good to be a decent person, but even better to be an encourager.  People who encourage others to be better people are the type of individuals who make worthwhile impacts in our world.  To prop people up, to push them forward, and to persuade them to endure in life, could be one of the most commendable traits of humans, other than love, which of course, is at the heart of encouragement.

I’m certainly not someone who is out proselyting males to a girly lifestyle, but I definitely won’t resist encouraging men to be girly who are openly searching for guidance into femininity.  It is an important part of the girly boy life.  In my opinion, to encourage other guys to dress like girls, is a commendable trait.  That might seem radical, perhaps crazy.  Yet, it gives us girly men purpose, so that we’re not merely expressing our feminine self-identities for us and us alone.  None of us should want this better way of life to be a selfish pursuit.  We shouldn’t want it to be exclusive. There’s a whole lot more to being girly than a five finger exercise while wearing panties–and yes, you know what that means.  don’t ask.  We should want to share girliness, edify others within it, and celebrate those who are newfound fem-boys.  We should want to encourage boys to dress like girls, talk like girls, move like girls, think like girls…be like girls.

Imagine how different things would be for you, if, long ago when you were testing the waters of girliness, you had someone encouraging you:  Someone who would let you know that it’s okay; Someone to cheer you on; Someone to validate your feelings; Someone to build up your feminine self-esteem.  Who knows?  You might even be girlier than you are now!  Maybe your closet would look a lot different?  Perhaps your drawers would have nothing but pinks and pastels.  Maybe every pair of pants you owned were women’s.  Maybe all of your shirts would button on the left.  And just perhaps, you would have finally mastered shaving your legs without creating a rash of hair bumps!  And all because some pleasant girly boy was kind enough to encourage you to be radical and accept femininity as your way of life.

It’s a different frame of mind, I’m sure, to be less self-centered and more other-focused.  That’s a different mindset and I think it’s a better one.

Let’s be radically girly together!

CandieHart

Candie is an enthusiast for all things fit and femme. All of her very creative captions carry the same positive, motivating ethos that I envisioned for Pink Femme when I started this site. Use this link to go to Candie’s blog on Tumblr and give her captions some much-needed love.

If you would like to see more of Candie’s longer-form content with captions here on Pink Femme – here is the link to the list of posts that have been published.

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Edith

I stay in shape by trail running. When I am not writing posts to help you be as feminine as you can be, I work as a therapist.

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